From the category archives:


On teasing women

by GK on January 5, 2010

A recent student of mine wanted to understand “push-pull,” one of the tools in the Charisma Arts toolbox.  I’m a guy who likes simple language — witness how with the Big Four, I advise talking about yourself and telling her you like her instead of focusing on “I statements” and the “SOI.” And whether you call it push-pull, negging, […]

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What if you forget her name?

by GK on August 26, 2009 · 3 comments

So, let’s say you’re taking up that Project 52 idea I tossed around last week, and you’re out meeting some ladies and taking names. Only if you’re anything like me, you can’t remember all their names. I think it’s a good idea to exchange names early in an interaction, just to establish that you are in […]

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I had a comical little experience at my neighborhood bar last night that I thought I’d share, as a shining example of why being genuine and expressive with women beats technique the same way rock beats scissors.  I was catching up with my buddy Doug — or Trey, as I call him after our podcast on threesomes — and soon after […]

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Personally, I can’t stand those lame “7 ways to make a woman purr!!!” magazine headlines and their banal article contents, but I’m breaking my rule on this one. I’m talking about flirting tactics that I used to run when meeting girls several years ago but have outgrown now. Kind of like when Michael Jordan stopped hogging the ball and started […]

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How to look for her wedding ring

by GK on July 20, 2009

This post may seem remedial to some, but I’ve been reminded lately that it’s still necessary. I think every guy goofs up now and then by forgetting to look for a woman’s wedding/engagement ring before approaching her — I know I have. Sometimes I have no choice because her hand is obscured, and if I wait too […]

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The Wingman Rules

by GK on July 5, 2009 · 4 comments

Lately, I’ve been teaching some younger guys who don’t have much experience meeting women in bars, and they’ve been curious to know more about wingman etiquette. So I thought I’d play Moses and trot out 10 commandments for anyone who’s curious. Every now and then I have to train a wingman of my own, and if you ever want […]

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On being in the moment

by GK on May 12, 2009 · 4 comments

A lot of guys worry about what to talk about with a woman … hell, I remember the dark ages of my mid-20s, when I would write down conversation topics before a date and keep a cheat sheet in my pocket. Somehow, it didn’t help. I don’t worry about that anymore. Sure, I’ll hit some occasional dead spots with a […]

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