GK’s Book Pick: Seduce with Style

by GK on January 13, 2011 · 1 comment

I was vacationing with Oprah in Australia last month. Well, not really, but we were both in the same beach town at the same time, and her helicopter flew above me while I was snorkling in the Great Barrier Reef.  So it’s only fitting that I play Oprah and make a little book recommendation for you.

And in full disclosure, part of the reason I like this book is that I’m in it. It’s a just-released work called “Seduce with Style,” and it’s written by a local friend of mine who goes by the uber-masculine handle AlphaWolf. He also runs a site called God of Style.

The 203-page ebook (priced at $59.95) is an all-inclusive style guide for men, covering clothes, accessories, shoe maintenance, skin care, colognes and more — with the specific intent of helping them attract women. I thought it was a great idea when the Wolf approached me for an interview, and having read it three times I can say it’s an excellent resource for any guy who’s looking to find or upgrade his look.

Aside from all the practical and personal advice the book provides — which is solid — I think my favorite part is near the end, when the writer acknowledges this: attractive style is not the most important thing in the world.

I’ll be frank: this is a Community-influenced work, and I generally recoil from that crowd (even though I’ve been part of it) because it seems like if you’re not dressed like Russell Brand and dating five strippers and rating every girl on a 1-10 scale, you’re doing something wrong in their minds. And indeed there are a couple of terms in this book, such as the “attraction switch,” that I don’t really believe in teaching.

But this book isn’t trying to make guys look or act the same — rather, it helps tailor the style to the guy. This tailoring includes physical features — short guys shouldn’t wear more than three buttons on a jacket, for example — wearing the right colors for your skin type, and matching the clothes to the lifestyle. One term I do agree with is “congruence”: if you’re an accountant, look like a sharp-dressed accountant, not a punk rocker.

I have a personal love of style, and I’ll never apologize for that even in ultra-casual San Francisco. And indeed it’s helped me to attract women, but it’s just another tool in the toolbox as far as that goes. What matters more is that understanding my style helped me to understand who I am and have more fun.

That’s why I’m recommending “Seduce with Style” here. It’s meant not just to help a guy look better, but to also live better.

And did I mention I’m in it? You can download my little advice spread here:

GK Advice Page

{ 1 comment }

1 AlphaWolf January 13, 2011 at 6:05 pm

It is hyper masculine, isn’t it?

:)

-AW

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