Remembering Dirk, One Year Later

by GK on January 12, 2012 · 5 comments

It occurred to me lately that I should add to my blogroll. I only have one site listed, and even though I prefer to avoid the seduction-community scene because of all its sleaze, I know I can find like-minded bloggers to add here. That’s part of why I got on Twitter recently.

But they would be hard pressed to match the value of that one blog. That’s because it was Dirk Manley’s.

Dirk died one year ago, last Jan. 13. When it comes to our subject matter, I have yet to find a writer of his equal in this cold, impersonal space where strangers give advice to strangers. And I don’t even mean he was the most skilled writer out there, because he wasn’t. I just loved what he was saying and how he said it. As I said in my eulogy, I saw a lot of myself in the guy. Maybe that just means I love myself too much, who knows.

Unfortunately, far too few people read Dirk’s posts because he did little to promote his blog — he wasn’t selling anything, and he didn’t need the attention. But for those who haven’t read him yet, I thought I’d salute him with a sampling of posts that are worth reading:

  • Dirk’s ABCs of closing with a woman: A major refrain in Dirk’s advice was the importance of making a move, regardless of how the guy makes it or how smooth he is. He provided an excellent guest-post for me here. There’s the bonus of watching Alec Baldwin go bananas in the video.
  • Why the Community is wrong: A very accurate distillation of what the seduction community is selling: the fantasy of video-game perfection in seducing that “10.”
  • Leading Part 3: Dirk was in a monogamous relationship while I knew him, but here he does give an account of when he and his girlfriend pursued a third member one night. His explanations of his failure and success are typical, no-bullshit Dirk.
  • One-night stands: This isn’t just about the flaws with one-night stands, but also the flaws with pursuing relationships and with “game” as a measure of success.
  • Rejection: Aside from being great advice, this is a great example of Dirk’s blunt, Charles Bukowski-like style. Reach for her crotch, indeed.

I invite you to check out the rest of Dirk’s blog and find your own notable posts.

{ 5 comments }

1 Ra January 13, 2012 at 12:32 pm

I once emailed the man for advice. And he replied.

http://beingmanley.blogspot.com/2010/08/looming-breakup.html

And I’m grateful he did. Not living in the past is the greatest decision I made, even if I applied it very differently. Pouring out a little liquor tonight.

2 Ra January 13, 2012 at 12:44 pm
3 GK January 13, 2012 at 9:01 pm

Was that you he responded to, Ra? Awesome. There are plenty of great posts to pick from. I still look through them now and again.

4 Sal January 16, 2012 at 4:28 pm

He was a fan of the quote, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” That’s what I remember most about him.

5 Nate January 17, 2012 at 1:08 pm

I’m so glad I emailed Dirk and the fact that it featured in his “Why the Community is wrong” post is great because I hope it helps other guys as much as it helped (and still does help) me immensely when I start to feel a little down. I never had the pleasure of meeting him but every now and then I’ll think about how he helped me and that’s how he lives on in my mind. He had this knack of being able to put a little steel in my spine whenever I visited his blog. Much Respect, R.I.P Dirk.

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