I never get tired of hearing success stories, and I’ve got another one for you. This one comes from a special event: my last bootcamp with Charisma Arts almost two years ago.
I enjoyed myself immensely during that session, in part because both guys I coached that weekend were starting from scratch in their social lives yet showed great promise. One of those guys was Peter, who was in his mid-20s. Like so many of the fellas I’d coached before, he was a nice guy who needed to find the confidence to assert himself with women.
I’d heard little from him since that weekend, until a few days ago when he sent me an uplifting e-mail about what he’s been up to. I loved reading his story because it felt real — he didn’t change overnight — and because his long-term success with women didn’t require becoming a pickup artist, as so many guys believe they need to be.
Rather, he took who he was and tailored a social life around that. I’ll let Peter say the rest, and pay attention to the “Godfather” reference:
“To make a long story short, after my bootcamp with you, I was still scared as hell approaching girls. Even though many of the self-limiting beliefs were broken during my bootcamp such as how open girls are to talking. I got a couple of numbers in the next few months and went on I think three dates.
I met a new group of friends, however, who were just like me — single and ready to party. I thought eventually through our network I could meet a girl I really like.
Then came a day in early February of last year. My friend called me up and said a girlfriend of his wanted to go salsa dancing and a couple of her single girlfriends were going to be there. Honestly, I wasn’t too excited about salsa dancing as it really isn’t my thing, but I said why not. I could maybe see some girls there and for sure get to meet 3 single girls. I went to the salsa event and had a blast, met the girls and initially I had no interest in either of them. But they were cool as hell.
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Slowly but surely I started to find interest in one of the girls from that night. We had events that the group would go out on, and she and I would talk, flirt and talk some more. I recalled two of my friends telling me separately that they saw great chemistry between us. I also felt that way. Finally on the day of her birthday party, I asked her out.
She said, “Make me an offer I can’t refuse.” I simply said, “You know what, I’m just going to take you out, have a couple of drinks and have a great time.” She then responded “Okay.” (Later on she said she liked how confident I said it and how simple my answer really was).
So then I took her out on our first date for dessert and drinks. The dessert part of the date was awesome really. I played a little game of “Pick a dessert for me and I pick one for you.” She loved it. After, I took her over to a bar, and we just had a couple of drinks and danced. I remember trying to constantly grind up on her and kiss her. She refused my kisses all through the night. I didn’t mind though because I liked her a lot.
The grinding and trying to kiss her aggressively probably wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t find Charisma Arts. Honestly, Charisma Arts gave me the confidence to be flirty with her leading up to our first date. You focusing on the Big 4 made things so much easier! Saying things I wouldn’t have thought to say. Touching her in ways I would have never touched a girl before. She said she liked my confidence and honestly I never really thought me as a confident person.
So to make a long story short, I’m still with this girl. She’s awesome and we have great chemistry. Although I do believe that if we had met two years ago (before our bootcamp) I don’t think I would have had the skills to get her. I want to THANK YOU for what you have taught me. I do think many guys out there need the help that you provide but aren’t willing to admit it. But I’m glad I took the leap, paid up and got the knowledge from it.”
No, Peter. Thank YOU.
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I feel honored for having this posted up!
One of the many important things I learned was, getting what you want, rather than waiting for it to come to you. I felt that I was waiting way too much and felt that there were many lost opportunities. However it worked out really well as I found a great girlfriend! GK taught me to be aggressive in a gentlemanly way. He taught me to make it known to the girl that I want her. I can’t thank him enough!