Thank You, Nerds

by GK on September 29, 2010 · 2 comments

Lately I’ve felt as if my waning days as a social coach are flashing before my eyes — one girl I’m dating turns out to be close friends with a guy I once coached, then I perform at a gong-show karaoke contest to find out one of the judges interviewed me for the Eye on the Bay TV piece this year (I still got gonged).

And as promised, last week I stood before 120 fellow nerds — potentially hostile ones — to explain and defend the pickup-artist culture that I’ve mostly left behind. Eleanor Roosevelt once said we should do one thing that scares us every day, and I’d say I crammed a month’s worth of fright into that appearance.

But it’s all the more reason why I had to do it. And much like Rocky won over the Russians to end the Cold War, I found common ground with my audience on a controversial topic. Nerd Nite turned out to be a lot of fun, and it was a memorable cherry on top to my days within the Community.

 I’ve been promised video of our shenanigans, and I’ll pass it on to you guys once I see it.

Coincidentally, I benefited from one of the very concepts I explained: social proof. My buddy Bart was putting on the event, and he gave me a warm introduction that got me off to a friendly start with the crowd: “GK is not a douchebag,” he assured them. I guess you had to be there, but it really did help.

My presentation included a slide comparing routines to the Dark Side of the Force, a fantastic question-answer session where the women present were especially engaged, and best of all, a 10-minute skit where I combined PUA terminology with seducing Bart in a wig. We even got an AMOG to try interrupting us. I don’t think Bart (or his wife) will ever forgive me for putting him through that, but it was still worth it.

I wanted all along to show a mainstream audience that it wasn’t just boa-wearing weirdos who learned this stuff, but also normal guys who just wanted to improve their social skills. I think I managed to do that.

In the process, I learned something, too: I wish I had coached women, at least once. I’m skeptical about how many girls can actually pick up guys, but I would have liked to try teaching it, and from the questions I was getting from the women there, I think there’s some demand to learn those skills. If nothing else, women with better flirting skills in San Francisco might placate whiners like this.

Anyway, there’s a Nerd Nite in cities around the world, so maybe I’ll make this presentation a traveling circus. Which guys want to wear a wig and let me hit on them?


1 andy September 29, 2010 at 10:37 am

i wanna see a movie from your show..!

2 Mark September 30, 2010 at 2:19 am


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