I almost always decline offers to guest-post on my blog, usually because the writers are either too sleazy, too inexperienced or simply too unskilled. That’s right, Simon Cowell has nothing on me when it comes to being harsh on talent.
But from reading his growing catalog of articles, I actually like what this kid has to say. And especially because he’s giving, not selling his advice, I’m happy to share some of his thoughts with you.
His name is Alex Matlock, he lives in London, and he’s both a gentleman and a scholar — he’s been enjoying the life of a ladies’ man while pursuing his Ph.D in social psychology. His focus is on male-female relationships.
As we know, dating gets expensive for a guy, and a small number of women will exploit men for their money by dating them. Here’s Alex’s take on how to screen out the right women:
(This is a guest post by Alex Matlock, an expert in “dating” and woman psychology)
I approached Greg a couple of days ago and asked about a guest post on his blog. He replied that he liked my articles, but he wanted to see some more information about my philosophy on NOT dating.
I’ll be very honest here because there’s no other way to put this. Dates should be an exclusive privilege to girls that actually deserve it. Their worth is established by a number of things:
1. She is having sex with you.
2. The sex is good.
3. You have feelings for her.
4. She’s interested in you, not your money/friends/influence etc.
When a girl ticks all of these points, you can take her out on dates as she now deserves it.
So, let’s see why you shouldn’t take them on dates and what to do instead:
The most important reason would be the fact that EVERYONE else takes her on dates. How are you any different from all the other douchebags that are buying her dinner/drinks/whatever?
Exactly, you’re not different.
I’ve met many girls who kept going on dates because some guy was paying for her dinner or buying her drinks. I’m sure you have at least one female friend that exploits a guy. Don’t be him — show her that you’re different, and show her that from the start.
The other reason would be money … why should you spend 50 pounds (here in the UK) on a dinner date when you won’t even know if she’s going to have sex with you? We all know that taking her out and paying for dinner doesn’t necessarily result in sex … it all bows down to how you make her feel.
So then I ask you: Why should you buy her dinner to make her feel good when you could choose any other activity?
You might ask, “But girls want to go on dates, so how do we get around that?” It’s very simple, you don’t go on dates — you get together!
Call her up/text her/send her an email and tell her you want to get together. She might think it’s a date or whatever she wants to think, but you don’t care because you know exactly what’s going to happen. When you ask her to “get together” rather than ask her out on a date, it increase her positive response rate for two very important reasons: it’s different and she’s not obligated to do anything since it’s not a date.
In these circumstances, there’s no pressure. If there’s no pressure, she’s more likely to feel good and if she feels good, you’ve got her!
So, what sort of activities fall into get togethers?
Some examples of what I’m talking about:
- Take her out for a walk in the park: To this day this is one of my favorite activities. You walk around the park, talk, make her feel good, even grab an ice cream/coffee from the closest shop (don’t pay for her). There’s absolutely no pressure on this activity and that instantly loosens her up.
- Rent bikes and go cycling together.
- Do sports together.
- Take her to free events: Your location is probably full of them. Do a Google search and find out. Not only will you be cost free on this but you will also be doing something she’s probably never done before. These are things like art galleries, amateur theatre, live bands, etc. She will enjoy this more than you can imagine.
(Side note: Always end whatever it is that you’re doing before she does. If you end it while she’s feeling good, she had a good time. If you let it drag on until she ends it (when she’s no longer feeling good), she’ll have a bitter taste in her mouth and it’s all downhill from there.)
Make her part of your world: This is another one of my favorites. This is actually how you can make a girl fall in love with you. It’s a simple process that many of us men do without realizing, but here are the details.
After you do a couple of the activities above, it’s probably a good time to have sex with her. It should work, and usually works if you kept her feeling good. With that sorted, it’s time to make her part of your world.
This is so good, I’m getting exited writing about it. Bear in mind you never took her on a date yet, and make sure you take her to your place when you have sex.
Now that you’ve finished (sex), you can either throw her out of your house or, let her stay the night.
What I usually do is give her a pair of my boxers and a T-shirt and get her into the living room. I’ve got some wine and a nice shaggy white carpet we can sit on. I put a movie in, let’s say “Breakfast at Tiffany’s,” and we sit there talking and watching.
You tell me, what girl doesn’t want to sit on a white shaggy carpet drinking wine while watching “Breakfast at Tiffany’s”? I’ve got some cool roommates too (all girls), so they sometimes hang with us.
What I’m doing here is making her part of my world. These are things she does with me that she will never have the chance to do with anyone else.
If she stays the night, even better, she’ll be part of my world in the morning. I wake up and, because I eat “healthy,” I cook eggs and bacon. Guess what? She gets the same; she’s literally experiencing part of my life. Girls die for stuff like this, and they just might fall in love with you as a result.
It gets even better. If I’ve got stuff to do and she’s got the day off, I take her with me. I nicely ask her to come with me to the car parts store to buy a new bulb for my car, we have a nice drive, we talk, we get the bulb, have a coffee somewhere and then I take her home.
And do you know the good part? I’ve never been on a date with this girl.
Actually, do you know the best part? Next time I want to see her, I just ask her if she wants to come to my place and because she had such a nice time…she WANTS to!
OK, so maybe I took this whole thing too far, but you must get the idea. Dates are bad, and I’ve just proved that NOT going on a date with a girl will actually make her fall in love with you.
This is the sort of mentality I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women visit The Player Guide — a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.